Posted by: 360 Self Transformation Team

Posted on: 08/01/2020

​​​​3 Reasons We Get "Stuck" in Life- And How To Bounce Back Strong

“When we are stuck in a rut we are being invited to grow and expand.” ― Dana Arcuri

Alex is the kind of guy that everyone liked. He was always in between jobs and was always broke, but all his family and friends could only say good things about him.

His girlfriend, Kate, thinks that he is the sweetest guy in the world. However, she grew more and more exasperated with him over the years.

She loved Alex for his personality, but he always had trouble taking responsibility for his own life. As a result, Kate felt stuck in a situation where she always has to bail Alex out of trouble.

Things came to a head when Alex got into an accident. His car went off-road and into a ditch. But fortunately, he only suffered a few broken ribs and his leg was in a cast for 3 months.

The bad news was that it was actually Kate’s car, and Alex borrowed it so he could have a night out with his friends.

Needless to say, Kate was extremely upset.

But it wasn’t because of the car, but the fact that Alex’s irresponsibility almost got him killed.

She took care of Alex for the next several months, but she had already decided to break up with him by then.

So after Alex recovered from his accident, he had to take a long, good look at himself and the choices that he made.

This was when he realized that something had to change. It dawned on him that he was always going to be where he was if he didn’t do something about it.

How To Break Free From A Less-Than-Ideal Life

Like Alex, many people lose their direction in life and feel trapped.

You might have a fuzzy idea of the person you want to be - or the kind of life that you want…

...but you don’t really know how to make that happen.

This is where feelings of dissatisfaction come from.

But the good news is that you can, in fact, get out of the rut you’re stuck in - even if you feel the complete opposite.

If you feel like you can’t move forward in life, chances are it has something to do with the 3 following reasons:

Reason #1. You Don’t Know What You Want

Most people don’t realize that they could be so much closer to their ideal future if only they spent real time thinking about what that future actually means.

They only have a vague, nebulous idea of the things that they want. Without a clear idea of what to aspire for, those plans and goals will be just as half-baked.

And so, you need to have a well-defined idea of what your “Point B” is - a.k.a. Where you want to be...

...then work your way back to “Point A”, which is where you are now.

That means you have to have a well-defined “Point B” before you can start plotting your course towards that destination.

To help you with that, here are some questions that you can ask yourself:

  • What kind of values do I live for? Is it truth, helping others, creating beauty in the world, adding value to other people’s lives, etc.?
  • In what way do I express these values in my personal life, and in my work?
  • What kind of problems do I want to solve, and how does this honor my values?
  • What would a typical day in my ideal future look like? Who am I with, and what kind of problems am I solving, and how do I add value to the world?

It’s very much worth your while sitting down and answering these questions. Be as detailed as you can and describe any emotional details as well.

The clearer you can paint this picture, the better sense of PURPOSE you’ll have in your life!

And this is the perfect antidote to feeling “stuck.”

Reason #2. You Don’t Know How To Get It

A lot of people tend to just accept their situation and get used to feeling stuck.

This is often because they have been so beaten down that they felt like there’s nothing to do but give up.

They become desperate and think that there’s really nothing else for them to do. It’s like they are in an endless tunnel with no light to look forward to.

What they don’t realize is that they lack a solid plan to get out of the rut they’re in. That’s why they never achieve the escape velocity to overcome the gravity of their situation.

Worse, they’re afraid to come up with a plan in the first place. Treading water and staying afloat is a lot less scary than trying to move forward and fail.

But in the long run, “protecting” yourself from failure has far worse consequences than making a plan to get un-stuck.

Here’s a good way to get the ball rolling:

  • Get your plan in place: after you’ve spent time figuring out what you want to do (i.e., your Point B), the next step is to translate that desire into an actionable plan. From here you can come up with smaller goals leading up to your Point B.
  • Use the SMART approach: any goals you make should be Specific (well-defined), Measurable (it can be measured in some way), Attainable (it’s actually possible to make accomplish those goals), Relevant (it’s connected to your values and sense of purpose) and Time-based (there’s enough time to execute your plans and there’s a definite timeline)
  • Create checkpoints: any plan should run on a schedule, and that means setting up goalposts on your way to your Point B. So you can break down that big goal into smaller goals, which can each be represented by a specific checkpoint. That way, you’ll have a sense of progress as you reach each checkpoint.
  • Get a planner: the act of writing down your goals on a planner will make your plans feel more tangible and doable. It will also give you a better sense of urgency since you’ll need to schedule your goals on a weekly and monthly basis.

This is a bird’s eye view of the “getting what you want” process, but this is a great way to overcome your inertia and keep moving forward.

Reason #3. You’re Getting In Your Own Way

Here’s the other thing - you’re going to run into a lot of obstacles when trying to get from Point A to Point B.

But you probably know this already. If you feel stuck in some way, that’s a clear sign you’re having trouble overcoming those obstacles.

And the biggest reason people can’t move forward is that they avoid asking the hard questions.

As uncomfortable as it is to grapple with these questions...

...this is the best way to remove those barriers getting in your way of a better life.

That said, it’s worth asking yourself the following:

  • “Which of my habits aren’t serving my true purpose?” - The things that you do repeatedly are either helping you get what you want, or are slowing you down.
    So, make a list of the habits that honor your ultimate goals and those that don’t. With a little humility and self-awareness, you’ll figure out which habits you need to nurture - and which ones to starve.
  • “What thought patterns are making it harder for me to succeed?” - More than daily habits, it’s also worth thinking about the kind of mindset you have when taking on life’s challenges.
    For instance, do you give up easily when you hit a wall - or do you pivot and try a different approach?
    Do you handle frustration well, or do you blow every setback out of proportion? Do you waste time complaining, or do you get busy taking action?

Answering these will give you good indicators or whether or not your mindset could use some tweaking.

This particular area is a HUGE sticking point that most people don’t bother to address.

They might know what they want and have a general plan in place. But if their own mindset is working against them, it’s going to be a very tough uphill battle.

How To Bounce Back And Rise Above Life’s Challenges

As for Alex, he wanted to bounce back from his situation. So, went through the process of figuring out what he wanted.

He was actually a great musician and played guitar in a band, but he’d let that part of his life slide. For the longest time, Alex wanted to get back into it by teaching young kids to play music.

But he’d always find some way to talk himself out of it. He convinced himself it was too hard and it was safer to just work the odd part-time job here and there to pay the rent.

Finally, he realized he needed a major mindset upgrade. It was the only way he could actually push through with his plans.

So as he put in the work to make his plans happen, Alex also tried something else.

He started looking inward and removed the unhealthy beliefs and negative thought patterns that were holding him back. When he figured out how to reprogram his mindset, everything began to fall into place for Alex.

And it was easier than he expected. Soon enough, he managed to get out of his rut and reinvent himself.

CLICK HERE To Learn How To Make that Major Mindset Upgrade, RISE ABOVE Life’s Challenges, and Look Forward To An Amazing Future!


6 Tips To Rise Above Challenges

6 Tips To Rise Above Challenges

“Life is not always perfect. Like a road, it has many bends, ups and down, but that’s its beauty.”
― Amit Ray, World Peace: The Voice of a Mountain Bird

Daily life will always come with challenges.

It won’t ever go away. There may be some easy days, but there will always be bad days.

I’m not saying these to burst your optimistic bubble.

I’m saying these to preface my tips for you today.

Before I begin though, I want you to check out Rise Above Program here:

Without further ado, here are 6 tips to rise above challenges:

6 Tips to Rise Above Challenges

1. Embrace the Challenges

Obstacles? Don't be Stopped by them be Strengthen by them”
― Bernard Kelvin Clive

There’s no way out. Life will be challenging. Instead of hiding and running from them. Welcome them. Embrace.

Adopting this mindset is easier said than done.

But having this mindset will make your life so much easier.


You can begin by accepting that’s the way life is.

It’s going to challenge you to the core…

Your personality…

Your beliefs…

Your attitude…

Life is going to change you. And resisting that change will only stress you out even more.

Why is it changing you in the first place? You might ask.

It’s because life wants you to grow. And deep down, that’s what you want too.

So embrace them and grow through every challenge.

2. Systematize Your Days

Some days can be better than others.

And for these not-so-easy days…

You might need an extra dose of motivation and happiness to get through them with grace.

It’s easy to lose your temper and lose sight of what’s important when you’re under pressure.

So the ability to deal with the challenges with grace will be so rewarding.

But how?

One way is to systematize your days. Create a routine in the morning and you can also do it at night too.

This routine should be healthy, like meditation, exercise, drinking water, etc.

Checking these activities off the list every single day…

Will give you that extra boost to get through a challenging day with grace.

Your challenges might not become easier, but you’ll become more equipped to tackle them.

3. Focus on One Thing at a Time

Challenges may present themselves all at once.

And if you can’t handle them well. It can be a disaster.

What you can do is to focus on one thing at a time.

Tackle immediate problems first, problems that if not solved immediately…

Can cause unwanted consequences.

Those that can be put off until later, do so.

If it will help you, create a mental list with 3 columns…

The first column will be those that need a solution immediately…

The last column will be those that can be put off until later.

And those that didn’t belong in the first and last will go to the second column.

This way, your thoughts can be more organized, thus helping you to solve your problems.

4. Take Baby Steps

As you go through your challenges, it can be overwhelming and more stressful…

If you’ll go full speed ahead.

It might be better to take baby steps when you’re feeling overwhelmed.

Tackle one thing at a time, and do it as relaxed as possible…

You can do that to control your stress.

You don’t have to solve everything on the first day.

5. Focus on the Present

Aside from everything above. It is also important for your mind to focus on the present.

You can practice this by adding meditation to your routine.

But it can also be achieved in other means.

Simply tuning in to your senses will make your mind focus on what’s currently here, now.

Try this….

Notice 5 things in your room, look at them and observe.

Next, hear 5 things you can hear. Listen. Where do you think those came from?

Next, feel 5 things on your body. Your clothes, your arms on the computer, your hands on the phone, etc.

As you do this, your senses will tune into the present. Erasing the unwanted thoughts about the past and the future that can greatly stress you out.

6. Enjoy Fun Moments

Finally, enjoy fun moments. Not every day of your life will be challenging. Some of them will be a breeze. Some will be fun and happy. While you’re here. Enjoy and celebrate. As you did while you’re in a challenging time…

Also, take your happy times moment by moment. Focus on the feeling of joy and happiness.

This will recharge you so when another challenging time comes, you’ll be prepared.

There you have it! I hope I help you prepare for your next challenging episode.

Or help you go through your present one.

Just keep at it. You can do it. You can rise above challenges. I believe in you.

=> Don’t forget to check out Rise Above Program here.

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